I know that for people going through separation and divorce this time of year, there is nothing worse than hearing "Merry Christmas" over and over. The holidays bring up memories - both good and bad - so it's natural to feel a bit down. But rest assured - this too shall pass. You are at a point in your life where you can make new memories and start new traditions.
You can enjoy the holidays without being subjected to ridicule and taunts of "you always get stressed and moody at the holidays". Believe me - I wrote the book on this kind of treatment. Funny thing is - I'm not stressed or moody this year. I would have every reason to be - no money, divorce mediation still pending, etc. But I have made a determined effort to focus on my family and all the blessings in my life. So I don't have a bunch of money to spend on Christmas (or rather credit cards to run up the bills on) - I have come up with little thoughtful gifts and even wrote special notes to each member of the family telling them how thankful I am to have them in my life.
I will be able to spend a nice Christmas Eve with my parents without having TheColdOne fidgetting and anxious to get home so he can have a "drink" with his sons (more like several drinks and some porn surfing on the net). Or as TheColdOne did last year - fall asleep in the middle of opening gifts. I will be able to go to the beautiful Christmas Eve service made even more special by having my son with me.
So hold on to your heart and know that you can get through this. I have and am a much better person for it.
May peace and joy surround you this Christmas season. And may God bless you and your family throughout the year.
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