As someone once said, "all good things must come to an end". Since the divorce settlement has come in, I no longer fall into the category of a discarded spouse. It took almost 3 years to reach a point in my life where that label no longer fit. It was not a fun journey but oh was it worth it. I have reached the other side and am now entering a new phase of my life. I proved to myself that I am strong and valuable. I re-learned to love myself, flaws and all. Most importantly I turned back to God and am learning to place my trust in Him.
So the shackles of the past no longer bind me. I no longer harbor any hard feelings against TheColdOne. I don't regret the past - I embrace it. If not for the past,I would not be the person I am today. I would not have the blessings in my life now if not for the events of the past.
Now I move on to my next adventure - whatever God has in store for me. I thank you for following my journey and wish you nothing but peace, love and the blessings of our Lord Jesus Christ. Without him we are nothing.
May God continue to bless you!
Robin
Sunday, November 20, 2011
Thursday, September 29, 2011
My Daughter's Wedding
Well the wedding is done. The knot was officially tied Sat. Sept 24 at 5pm. The wedding ceremony was absolutely beautiful - outside with the groom's father officiating. The reception was incredible and quite a blast for everyone - especially when the wedding party danced into the reception ala the infamous Chris Brown viral wedding video. There has never been a bride as beautiful as my little girl - stunning looks enhanced by absolute joy at marrying her best friend. The groom's facial expression when he saw his bride for the first time was one of the most beautiful sights I have ever seen.From the day she was born, I had dreamed of and dreaded her wedding day. Tears flowed from everyone last Saturday. I don't know of one single person that didn't get teared up at some point. The entire family was involved in this wedding - both Jenn and Justin's little boys were the ring bearers. My Dad escorted the bride from the city center lobby to the wedding ceremony site. Jenn's Dad and I escorted her down the aisle together. Brothers of the bride and groom were groomsmen. The bride had a handkerchief passed down from her great grandmother to her great aunt pinned to the hem of her dress. Every single decoration, all the way down to the ceremony program fans to the bottles of water given to each guest to all the corsages & bouquets were put together by hand and with nothing but love. The decorations at the reception were all done by hand and oozed the love for our little Jenn. Even the decorations for the kids' table were handmade. There was a "memory" table at the reception with pictures of the family members who had to celebrate the wedding in heaven. The whole day was encased in a giant bubble of love.
Jenn did throw in a little curveball into the ceremony along with the help of her now father-in-law. Before they were officially announced as man and wife, both me and Tammy (Justin's Mom) were invited up to the ceremony area. It was announced that since we were the first ones to kiss our children when they came into the world, we were to give them one last kiss before sending them off into their married life. I honestly don't know how Tammy and I made it through that part.
A truce was called between Jenn's dad, his family and my family. Actually we all had a lot of fun together and bridges were mended. Jenn's Dad and I marveled at how wonderful Jenn turned out with two dysfunctional parents like us (LOL). We both commiserated at our stupid choices of 2nd spouses and how we both wish we could push time back. Alas - that's not an option so we just settled for enjoying the day together.
It was a beautiful day and one I will never forget. I
asked Jenn as they were getting ready to be driven away in the vintage convertible that Debi (a dear friend and the wedding planner) had wrangled up for them, if the wedding/reception was what she had dreamed of. With tears in her eyes, she said "it was so much more". No mom could ask for anything better than that.Monday, September 5, 2011
Maybe He's Just a Bully
Many times "discarded spouses" have been victims of bullies but just don't realize it. Think back on your relationship - did your ex ever accept responsibility for their behavior? If the answer is "no" or the majority of time the answer is "no", then you could be dealing with a bully. The inability to accept responsibility for their behavior is a hallmark sign of a bully.
Here is an example of the bully's instinctive response when confronted with their behavior - (see if this sounds familiar)...
1. Denial - the bully denies everything. He may do this by trivializing the matter ("this is just silly") or by attempting conciliation ("the past is over - let's not dwell on this").
2. Retaliation - the bully counterattacks. This is where lying, deception, duplicity, hypocisy and blame all can raise their ugly heads. You usually end up giving a long explanation about why this was such an issue and end up stepping all over your words. By the time you are done, YOU even wonder what got you so angry or upset.
3. Feigning victimhood - if #1 and #2 have failed, the bully will resort to playing the "victim card". He wails to everyone about how HE was wronged - How he did everything he could but could just never satisfy you. In other words, he plays the long-suffering martyr and YOU are the mean one.
The ultimate goal is to distract or divert your attention from the issue at hand. How many times did you end up feeling guilty for even bringing up the situation?
Did light bulbs go off over your head as you read through this? They did with me. It was like a script written of every single argument TheColdOne and I had.
One of the most defining moments of our divorce happened the day my parents came to help me pack my stuff. TheColdOne asked me when I was going to sign the divorce papers. I had explained previously that I was not signing anything until my attorney looked over it. Well my nerves were already frayed and I responded with "every time you ask me about signing the papers, I'm going to add a day to the wait to sign them". This set him off - he started yelling at me that I "couldn't move a damned thing out of the house until I signed the papers". The "old" Robin would have started crying and started apologizing. Not now - I loudly told him that he may have called the shots in our marriage but I was calling them in the divorce. The look on his face was priceless - it went from extreme anger to confusion in the blink of an eye. TheColdOne's attempt to bully me had failed.
Sometimes you just have to say "ENOUGH" and stand up for yourself. Other times, you should just simply walk out of the room. Staying calm and confident is very important. Think over a plan for how you will handle the situation the next time it happens - cause believe me it will happen again. If there is a chance of physical abuse, get out and don't look back.
Unfortunately, TheColdOne still tries to bully me even though the divorce is final. When he was forced to pay me a settlement (much larger than his original offer that he tried to bully me into signing), TheColdOne thought he would get the last laugh by writing a personal check made out to my attorney. That would prevent me from getting the money right away versus a cashier's check that would have immediately cleared. Then as the cherry on top of the ice cream, he put "DS2FALB" on the memo line of the check. For those not in the midst of an ugly divorce that stands for "Divorce Settlement to Fat-Ass Lying Bitch". But it didn't make me angry or upset, it made me laugh especially when I realized that it was simply another bullying tactic from an immature little man.
But I did get the last laugh - I had the attorney make a copy of the check. I then did a little artwork (the picture above) and have it framed over my desk so I am reminded every day that I am strong and can handle anything that comes my way. It's actually right below my picture of Jesus so I am reminded that I can do nothing without Him and His strength never wavers.
For more information about adult bullies and how to handle them, check out http://www.divorce360.com/. They have some great articles about anything related to divorce you can think of.
As always, may you always feel God's presence.
robin
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Learning That You Can Walk on Water - If You Keep Your Focus
So many times over the past 3 years I have allowed myself to wallow in a vat of self-pity with an extra large side order of "woe is me". Believe me I have tried to avoid it but sometimes I just can't help myself. The good thing about having so much time for introspection is that you start to learn a lot about yourself - sometimes it isn't so pretty either. It has helped open my eyes to what I should be focused on and where I need to expend my energy.
Remember the story of Jesus walking on the water? (Matthew 14:22-33) If you recall, Peter was able to walk on the water AS LONG AS HE KEPT HIS EYES ON JESUS! Once Peter started letting his mind wander, he began to sink in the water, Peter lost his trust in the Lord to keep him safe. That's what happens so many times in my life. Things will be rocking along just fine and them BLAM - I get hit upside the head with a "situation". Sure some situations are more dire than others - some are just simply petty little things that I let get me sidetracked. No matter what size the situation is, it so consumes my brain that I lose my focus and I start sinking down into the pit of pity and anger. I allow myself to take my eyes off Jesus and my walk with Him and try to fix things myself.
Oh I'm not so smart that I thought of this all by myself. It was in the midst of our priest's sermon about Peter and Jesus walking on water that the light bulb clicked on over my head. That is the missing piece - taking our eyes off the only one that can guide us through the darkness and despair while loving us just as much.
My grandmother had a beautiful picture of Jesus that I loved looking at as a kid. Goodness knows what happened to it after she died. While trying to find the right picture for my home office, I came across a framed print just like the one my grandma had. I bought it and it is now right over my computer monitor in my office. Whenever I feel like I'm starting to lose focus, I can look right up in Jesus' face and remember where my focus should be.
I highly recommend having some type of visual reminder close by at all times. It doesn't have to be anything expensive - it can be something as simple as a Bible verse written on an index card. Just keep it nearby so when your feet start sinking into the pit of pity, you have something to focus on. Believe me, it works and you won't be sorry.
While I'm thinking about it - here are a couple of other things that just recently helped me get through a difficult moment of two. First of all, the book "Heaven Is For Real". When you are doubting if walking with the Lord is worth it, flip through this book. You can't help but be inspired and probably somewhat relieved to know that Heaven is real.
Secondly, I must recommend the movie, "Soul Surfer". It is a true story and so inspirational that you will need a box of kleenex to get through it. If you are feeling sorry for yourself and questioning why you are here or what you did to deserve "this", turn on this movie. You will not feel the same by the time the credits begin to roll.
As always, may God be with you.
robin
Remember the story of Jesus walking on the water? (Matthew 14:22-33) If you recall, Peter was able to walk on the water AS LONG AS HE KEPT HIS EYES ON JESUS! Once Peter started letting his mind wander, he began to sink in the water, Peter lost his trust in the Lord to keep him safe. That's what happens so many times in my life. Things will be rocking along just fine and them BLAM - I get hit upside the head with a "situation". Sure some situations are more dire than others - some are just simply petty little things that I let get me sidetracked. No matter what size the situation is, it so consumes my brain that I lose my focus and I start sinking down into the pit of pity and anger. I allow myself to take my eyes off Jesus and my walk with Him and try to fix things myself.
Oh I'm not so smart that I thought of this all by myself. It was in the midst of our priest's sermon about Peter and Jesus walking on water that the light bulb clicked on over my head. That is the missing piece - taking our eyes off the only one that can guide us through the darkness and despair while loving us just as much.
My grandmother had a beautiful picture of Jesus that I loved looking at as a kid. Goodness knows what happened to it after she died. While trying to find the right picture for my home office, I came across a framed print just like the one my grandma had. I bought it and it is now right over my computer monitor in my office. Whenever I feel like I'm starting to lose focus, I can look right up in Jesus' face and remember where my focus should be.
I highly recommend having some type of visual reminder close by at all times. It doesn't have to be anything expensive - it can be something as simple as a Bible verse written on an index card. Just keep it nearby so when your feet start sinking into the pit of pity, you have something to focus on. Believe me, it works and you won't be sorry.
While I'm thinking about it - here are a couple of other things that just recently helped me get through a difficult moment of two. First of all, the book "Heaven Is For Real". When you are doubting if walking with the Lord is worth it, flip through this book. You can't help but be inspired and probably somewhat relieved to know that Heaven is real.
Secondly, I must recommend the movie, "Soul Surfer". It is a true story and so inspirational that you will need a box of kleenex to get through it. If you are feeling sorry for yourself and questioning why you are here or what you did to deserve "this", turn on this movie. You will not feel the same by the time the credits begin to roll.
As always, may God be with you.
robin
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
As Robin's World Turns
Who needs a soap opera when you have the kind of drama-filled like that I have? I mean it has truly gotten out of hand since the last time I posted.
Here is the update - On the very last day of the deadline for filing an appeal against the Settlement issued by the judge, TheColdOne's attorney (you guessed it) filed an appeal. It was really pretty sad because it was pretty much based on a clerical error and didn't have one ounce of fact based merit. Of course we replied and the judge completely dismissed the appeal and signed an amended order with the corrected clerical error - there was no change whatsoever in the settlement but he did leave in the date for the payment from the original order.
Well of course that date has come and gone and I still don't have the money. TheColdOne's attorney is not returning phone calls or emails from my attorney so we are filing the contempt paperwork by the end of the week. Since TheColdOne is supposed to judge at the Hunting Retriever Club's Grand Competition in Canada in September, we are also asking the judge to withhold his passport and restrict all travel until he pays up.
You may think I'm bitter especially if you are just now finding my blog. I am but not about the divorce or the failed marriage. I am mad as hell that TheColdOne can't even man up enough to pay his responsibilities. I know it just pissed him off to see what the judge ordered for the settlement - should have taken the $8000 settlement offer idiot - but that's how the chips fell. You can believe that if the situation were reversed, he would be beating down my door to get the money. It's not my fault that he spent money like a drunken sailor at the low-class Hooters wannabe bar near our house or that hanging with strippers at the Gold Club cost so much.
But in the end, he will have to pay up. He's not hurting me by not paying - that's the whole point of the little game he is playing. I have the money to pay for my daughter's wedding and I've managed quite well with just my salary for the past 2 1/2 years. I hope, for his sake, that he decides to do the right thing sooner than later. It will be quite embarrassing to have to admit to the Grand Committee that he can't judge the field trials because he is a deadbeat.
OK - now I've got to go pray for forgiveness for being so mean and angry. I refuse to let TheColdOne and his games to control my life. That's one of the reasons that I love writing!
May God be with you.
Here is the update - On the very last day of the deadline for filing an appeal against the Settlement issued by the judge, TheColdOne's attorney (you guessed it) filed an appeal. It was really pretty sad because it was pretty much based on a clerical error and didn't have one ounce of fact based merit. Of course we replied and the judge completely dismissed the appeal and signed an amended order with the corrected clerical error - there was no change whatsoever in the settlement but he did leave in the date for the payment from the original order.
Well of course that date has come and gone and I still don't have the money. TheColdOne's attorney is not returning phone calls or emails from my attorney so we are filing the contempt paperwork by the end of the week. Since TheColdOne is supposed to judge at the Hunting Retriever Club's Grand Competition in Canada in September, we are also asking the judge to withhold his passport and restrict all travel until he pays up.
You may think I'm bitter especially if you are just now finding my blog. I am but not about the divorce or the failed marriage. I am mad as hell that TheColdOne can't even man up enough to pay his responsibilities. I know it just pissed him off to see what the judge ordered for the settlement - should have taken the $8000 settlement offer idiot - but that's how the chips fell. You can believe that if the situation were reversed, he would be beating down my door to get the money. It's not my fault that he spent money like a drunken sailor at the low-class Hooters wannabe bar near our house or that hanging with strippers at the Gold Club cost so much.
But in the end, he will have to pay up. He's not hurting me by not paying - that's the whole point of the little game he is playing. I have the money to pay for my daughter's wedding and I've managed quite well with just my salary for the past 2 1/2 years. I hope, for his sake, that he decides to do the right thing sooner than later. It will be quite embarrassing to have to admit to the Grand Committee that he can't judge the field trials because he is a deadbeat.
OK - now I've got to go pray for forgiveness for being so mean and angry. I refuse to let TheColdOne and his games to control my life. That's one of the reasons that I love writing!
May God be with you.
Monday, June 27, 2011
Change My Name, Change My Name
One of the first things to do after you get your final divorce decree is change your name on all your personal documents, accounts, etc. That is if you are going back to your maiden name. Going back to my maiden name was a big deal for me - I didn't want to be tied to TheColdOne or his name ever again. Since we had no children together, changing my name was a given. Changing your name is not just a matter of making a few phone calls. There are several steps that you have to manuever but I'm here to help you make the big leap!
First of all, you will need a CERTIFIED copy of your divorce decree with the name change in the document. The courts will not send you one certified copy gratis with your divorce. You have to go to the clerks' office and pay for a certified copy. The cost is minimal though. While there, go ahead a get 2 certified copies. That will save you a trip.
First you need to change your social security card. I had to do this before I could change my name at work or anything else. You can do it by mail but you have to send in the certified copy of your divorce decree. It has to be an original - it can't be a photocopy of the certified one. The Social Security website says that they will send the decree back to you but with the government being involved, I didn't want to take the chance. I went in person to the office - it didn't take long. There were no forms to fill out. I just had to show my driver's license and the divorce decree. There is no cost involved. You will get your new social security card in the mail in a few weeks. The good thing is you get a receipt that shows you have applied for a new social security card and it has your new name on the receipt. This was good enough to use for proof for my job. Hang on to this receipt until you get your new card in the mail.
Next is the drivers' license. This is another thing that you have to do in person. You have a brief form to fill out and of course you will have to wait. Once again, you have to show the certified copy of your decree and your current drivers' license. This one isn't free - the cost here in GA was $25.00 - you get one free name or address change during the certification period of your license. Unfortunately I used up my freebie to change my address. Be forwarned - they do take another picture - you can't just use the old one on file. I didn't know this so now I have a picture for the next 8 years of me with no makeup. They give you a color copy of your new license that serves as proof until the laminated one comes in the mail. It only took about 2 weeks to get mine.
Any professional license, like a nursing license, will also require a form to be filled out. The good thing is you can do this by mail and a photocopy of the certified divorce decree will suffice. The forms are easily downloadable on the organization's websites. Check closely to see if there is a fee involved - most of the time there is.
On to the bank - this is another task that requires an in-person visit. Make sure you have all your updated ID's available and a certified copy of the decree. Don't forget that you will have to order new checks and deposit slips. Unfortunately I had just ordered a new box of checks so I am going to wait a little bit to change the name on my checking accout. Just be aware that your name on your debit card will not match your driver's license until you change your name at the bank.
Last but not least, you will need to make sure your name is changed on all your accounts - electricity, water, car insurance, credit cards, etc. Don't forget your health insurance or your retirement plans. Check with each entity by phone to find out what their requirements are. While you are at it, change your voicemail also. That was one that I almost forgot!
It won't take long but it is a necessary part of divorce. The good thing is that it gives you a sense of closure - it's like tossing away that part of your life and starting anew. Take care of it promptly and start making the transition now! You will be amazed at how liberating it actually is.
Don't forget to take that certified copy of your divorce decree and put it in a safe secure location. If you want to get married again, you'll need it as proof of your divorce. BUT that's the least of my concern right now - I'm having too much fun with no entanglements or ties now.
God Bless You!
First of all, you will need a CERTIFIED copy of your divorce decree with the name change in the document. The courts will not send you one certified copy gratis with your divorce. You have to go to the clerks' office and pay for a certified copy. The cost is minimal though. While there, go ahead a get 2 certified copies. That will save you a trip.
First you need to change your social security card. I had to do this before I could change my name at work or anything else. You can do it by mail but you have to send in the certified copy of your divorce decree. It has to be an original - it can't be a photocopy of the certified one. The Social Security website says that they will send the decree back to you but with the government being involved, I didn't want to take the chance. I went in person to the office - it didn't take long. There were no forms to fill out. I just had to show my driver's license and the divorce decree. There is no cost involved. You will get your new social security card in the mail in a few weeks. The good thing is you get a receipt that shows you have applied for a new social security card and it has your new name on the receipt. This was good enough to use for proof for my job. Hang on to this receipt until you get your new card in the mail.
Next is the drivers' license. This is another thing that you have to do in person. You have a brief form to fill out and of course you will have to wait. Once again, you have to show the certified copy of your decree and your current drivers' license. This one isn't free - the cost here in GA was $25.00 - you get one free name or address change during the certification period of your license. Unfortunately I used up my freebie to change my address. Be forwarned - they do take another picture - you can't just use the old one on file. I didn't know this so now I have a picture for the next 8 years of me with no makeup. They give you a color copy of your new license that serves as proof until the laminated one comes in the mail. It only took about 2 weeks to get mine.
Any professional license, like a nursing license, will also require a form to be filled out. The good thing is you can do this by mail and a photocopy of the certified divorce decree will suffice. The forms are easily downloadable on the organization's websites. Check closely to see if there is a fee involved - most of the time there is.
On to the bank - this is another task that requires an in-person visit. Make sure you have all your updated ID's available and a certified copy of the decree. Don't forget that you will have to order new checks and deposit slips. Unfortunately I had just ordered a new box of checks so I am going to wait a little bit to change the name on my checking accout. Just be aware that your name on your debit card will not match your driver's license until you change your name at the bank.
Last but not least, you will need to make sure your name is changed on all your accounts - electricity, water, car insurance, credit cards, etc. Don't forget your health insurance or your retirement plans. Check with each entity by phone to find out what their requirements are. While you are at it, change your voicemail also. That was one that I almost forgot!
It won't take long but it is a necessary part of divorce. The good thing is that it gives you a sense of closure - it's like tossing away that part of your life and starting anew. Take care of it promptly and start making the transition now! You will be amazed at how liberating it actually is.
Don't forget to take that certified copy of your divorce decree and put it in a safe secure location. If you want to get married again, you'll need it as proof of your divorce. BUT that's the least of my concern right now - I'm having too much fun with no entanglements or ties now.
God Bless You!
Sunday, June 5, 2011
The Door Finally Closes
After a long 2 1/2 years, the door has finally closed on my marriage. It has been a rough 2 1/2 years - lots of tears and lots of emotion. Lots of ups and lots of downs. Lots of worrying and anxiety. But now - thanks to the judge issuing the Final Order of Divorce, it is all over and done with. Amazing that it only takes a 4 page document to end the battle.
There are no words to describe the utter and total relief that overwhelmed me when I received the copy of the Final Order. It wasn't just the amount of money awarded to me - it was more of having closure - that one last loose end was firmly tied off and finished. It was also a sense of vindication - I knew I deserved more than TheColdOne was offering. I knew that I had contributed a lot more to the marriage than he was willing to acknowledge. The Judge's final ruling only confirmed that.
I have to give all thanks and glory to God. Without His continuous presence around me and feeling His unconditional love, I would not have made it to this point. I must admit I questioned Him a LOT while waiting for the final decree. I tried to figure out why it was taking so long and what message God was sending me. Once again I learned to just let it go and let God do His job - He has a plan and there is no point trying to figure it out ahead of time. There was nothing "special" about the date the final order was issued. I didn't do anything different that day. I didn't wake up thinking - today is the day. It was just the time God had determined.
Of course I also have to thank my Mom and Dad, my kids and my host of friends & family for being rocks for me to hang onto during this time. I have learned that there is nothing more important than my family and that I should cherish each and every moment I get to spend with them.
So now it's onward and upward. I went to a pool party Friday night and we cracked open the bottle of champagne that I had saved from my wedding to TheColdOne. I had saved it for us to pop open on our tenth anniversary but we forgot about it. When I moved out, I found it in my closet. It was been sitting here at my house, unopened, waiting for the final decree to come down. The now empty bottle is sitting on my kitchen counter waiting for me to decide on a special place for it. It will always a symbol of my fight to get what I deserve.
That's the best thing about this whole ordeal. I never dreamed that I would have the courage to fight to the end and not give up when the going got tough. When I moved out, I was a shell of a human being - so emotionally fragile that even I wondered if I could get through this. Now I am stronger and have much more confidence in myself. Heck I am far from perfect and never will be, but I know now that with God and my family at my side, I can get through anything.
Over the next couple of weeks, I will be posting some information and tips from my experience through this. Even my attorney doubted that we would get the amount the judge awarded but she stood and fought right along with me. I've learned a lot and hopefully you will find some of it useful.
In the meantime, I am still in a sense of euphoria and relief. I don't think I've been this relaxed in 13 1/2 years - and that's without any Xanax. Life is good and God is great!
God bless you!
There are no words to describe the utter and total relief that overwhelmed me when I received the copy of the Final Order. It wasn't just the amount of money awarded to me - it was more of having closure - that one last loose end was firmly tied off and finished. It was also a sense of vindication - I knew I deserved more than TheColdOne was offering. I knew that I had contributed a lot more to the marriage than he was willing to acknowledge. The Judge's final ruling only confirmed that.
I have to give all thanks and glory to God. Without His continuous presence around me and feeling His unconditional love, I would not have made it to this point. I must admit I questioned Him a LOT while waiting for the final decree. I tried to figure out why it was taking so long and what message God was sending me. Once again I learned to just let it go and let God do His job - He has a plan and there is no point trying to figure it out ahead of time. There was nothing "special" about the date the final order was issued. I didn't do anything different that day. I didn't wake up thinking - today is the day. It was just the time God had determined.
Of course I also have to thank my Mom and Dad, my kids and my host of friends & family for being rocks for me to hang onto during this time. I have learned that there is nothing more important than my family and that I should cherish each and every moment I get to spend with them.
So now it's onward and upward. I went to a pool party Friday night and we cracked open the bottle of champagne that I had saved from my wedding to TheColdOne. I had saved it for us to pop open on our tenth anniversary but we forgot about it. When I moved out, I found it in my closet. It was been sitting here at my house, unopened, waiting for the final decree to come down. The now empty bottle is sitting on my kitchen counter waiting for me to decide on a special place for it. It will always a symbol of my fight to get what I deserve.
That's the best thing about this whole ordeal. I never dreamed that I would have the courage to fight to the end and not give up when the going got tough. When I moved out, I was a shell of a human being - so emotionally fragile that even I wondered if I could get through this. Now I am stronger and have much more confidence in myself. Heck I am far from perfect and never will be, but I know now that with God and my family at my side, I can get through anything.
Over the next couple of weeks, I will be posting some information and tips from my experience through this. Even my attorney doubted that we would get the amount the judge awarded but she stood and fought right along with me. I've learned a lot and hopefully you will find some of it useful.
In the meantime, I am still in a sense of euphoria and relief. I don't think I've been this relaxed in 13 1/2 years - and that's without any Xanax. Life is good and God is great!
God bless you!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)